LGBTQ and Catholic identities should not exist in opposition
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Alfonso Quiroz is a candidate for Council in the 25th District. Photo via Facebook
By Alfonso Quiroz
Growing up raised in the Catholic faith means being shaped by a millennia old tradition.
From the pomp and circumstance of the mass, to getting your ashes on Ash Wednesday, the culture of Catholicism imbeds itself deep in those who attended mass regularly or went to catholic schools growing up.
Even for those who are no longer practicing, the culture of Catholicism is something that stays with you. But in addition to the cultural traditions that are passed down by Catholics, being raised in the church often bestows its parishioners with Catholic Guilt.
Growing up both gay and Catholic, the two often seemed diametrically opposed, both sides rejecting the other. But as much as cannot change my sexuality, I cannot deny that my heritage, my culture is inherently Catholic.
The confirmation of Pope Francis brought a new hope for progressive Catholics. Many thought we were entering a new era of the Catholic Church, one that would focus service to poor, and loving your neighbor, instead of focused on the dogma that has alienated so many people, particularly queer people.
Recently, Pope Francis issued a decree barring priests from blessing same-sex unions because, “God does not and cannot bless sin.” While I cannot say that I am shocked by the statement, the sting of having your love called a sin still bestows the feelings of guilt and shame I felt as a young, gay man.
My husband and I are lucky to live in a time and place where our marriage is recognized by our government and by a majority of those who call the United States home. But in many places across the world gay people still do not have this right. And in many more places, young, queer people are still alienated by their own family, religion, and culture simply because who they love.
Queer youth are five times more likely to attempt suicide than heterosexual youth. LGBTQ youth comprise up to 40% of the homeless youth population in New York City. LGBTQ youth are vastly more likely to experience domestic violence, sexual violence, mental health disorders, and increased HIV infection rates. We are facing a crisis in the city and this country of young, queer people who are rejected by their families, who feel that they don’t belong.
This papal decree does not exist in isolation. It has real implications for young, queer people across the globe, that can result in violence, homelessness, or death.
There are so many wonderful organizations out there that assist young queer people, such as the Trevor Project and the Ali Forney Center. If you or anyone you know is struggling with mental health or homelessness please reach out to one these organizations: Trevor Project 1-866-488-7386 or The Ali Forney Center 212-206-0574
No one should feel guilty for being in a loving, supportive relationship. Representation matters. Being assured that your love is real and beautiful matters.
Alfonso Quiroz is a candidate for city council in the 25th District, which includes Jackson Heights and Elmhurst.
